In a recent episode of the podcast Mind My Age, hosted by Neelam Brar and presented by Total Life Therapy—a service covered by Medicare that focuses on healthier aging—the celebrated speaker and author Andrea Driessen shared a transformative concept: Grace Notes. Andrea, whose TED Talk has garnered over 2 million views, detailed how acknowledging and appreciating loved ones while they’re still with us can enrich our lives and transform relationships.
The Power of Grace Notes
Andrea Driessen introduced listeners to the concept of Grace Notes as a profound way to honor those we care about during their lifetime. “Instead of waiting for eulogies after death,” Andrea mentioned, “let’s express love, appreciation, and acknowledgment while people are still alive.” This simple yet impactful idea originated from Andrea’s deep desire to honor her late father before his passing through what she described as “a living tribute.”
Transforming Relationships
The impact of penning a Grace Note goes beyond mere acknowledgment. Andrea explained that these notes deepen bonds and help heal estranged relationships. Through stories like her friend Sandy’s, who found compassion and forgiveness by writing a note to her mother, Andrea illustrated the transformative power of Grace Notes. Writing to someone allows you to become a better observer of how people “show up and matter to you,” as Andrea put it, ultimately dissolving feelings of resentment or estrangement. 
Writing as an Act of Kindness
For those hesitant to start writing, Andrea encourages overcoming the fear of judgment. “The greater your fear of judgment,” Andrea quotes from writer Kate Brenton, “the closer you are to engaging in something that will bring great joy.” Starting a Grace Note can be challenging. Andrea reassures that “kindness doesn’t demand perfection,” suggesting that beginning with a simple draft sent to yourself can be a liberating step towards deeper connections.
A Legacy of Connection
As we age, the legacy we leave behind becomes more significant. Andrea passionately spoke about how receiving a Grace Note helps individuals “see how we’re making impacts and encourages us to live into the legacy that others see in us.” By reflecting on moments of integrity or positivity highlighted in these notes, people are inspired to embody those qualities even more.
The Universality of Grace Notes
Grace Notes are not limited to family members. They can be shared with colleagues, friends, or even oneself. Andrea shared examples from workplaces where such notes boosted morale and performance reviews, illustrating their far-reaching impact.
Starting Your Grace Note Journey
Andrea’s advice for beginners is straightforward: “Get a piece of paper, get a pen, think about someone who really matters to you, how they’re making an impact, and write it down.” She emphasizes not overthinking the process and trusting that even the simplest of gestures can have profound effects. 
Conclusion
In closing, host Neelam Brar reflects on the urgency to express gratitude before it’s too late, aligning with Andrea’s poignant reminder: “We don’t get to pick when and how we die… today’s the day, not tomorrow.” The episode of Mind, My Age with Andrea Driessen, is a heartfelt reminder to celebrate lives and legacies now, encouraging listeners to write their own Grace Notes and deepen their connections.
For those interested in exploring therapy that can help overcome emotional barriers, Total Life’s services, covered by Medicare, are available. Remember, as Neelam Brar aptly reminds us, to “age with purpose, live with intention, and let those you love know how much they matter to you.”
