In the latest episode of “Mind My Age,” a show committed to promoting healthier aging, host Neelam Brar sat down with Jessica Brubaker, a licensed professional counselor and nationally certified counselor. With over a decade of experience, Brubaker specializes in trauma-focused care, anxiety, and self-care practices. This insightful conversation uncovered key strategies for enhancing mental health as we age.
Neelam Brar opened the session by discussing the often-overlooked impact of mental health on overall well-being, no matter one’s age. Brubaker eloquently captured this sentiment, stating, “Our experiences live in our body.” This integral understanding shapes her approach to counseling, emphasizing awareness and advocacy for one’s health.
The Journey to Becoming a Counselor
Brubaker shared her serendipitous journey into counseling. She initially set out to be a school counselor only to find her calling as a clinical counselor. A significant turning point in her pathway was a personal health challenge that heightened her awareness of body sensations and the anxiety that can accompany them. This experience, she noted, “was telling me to be more attuned to my body.”
Self-Advocacy in Health
During the discussion, Brubaker stressed the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare, especially for chronic conditions. She advised, “You know your body. Doctors are knowledgeable, but it’s okay to voice when something doesn’t feel right.” This empowerment to speak up is crucial for effectively managing one’s health and navigating the often complex medical landscape. 
A Paradigm Shift in Self-Care
Brubaker challenged the traditional notion of self-care, suggesting, “Self-care is putting the oxygen mask on before there’s a crisis.” By recommending an intentional approach to daily routines, she encourages individuals to put their well-being at the forefront. Her practical advice includes maintaining balanced eating, regulating sleep, and incorporating exercise—a formula she believes can transform one’s emotional and physical health.
Unpacking Trauma-Informed Care
Trauma-informed care involves considering how past experiences affect present health, even if they don’t fit conventional definitions of trauma. Brubaker explained, “Our brains take a screenshot of intense experiences,” which may affect behaviors and emotions. Understanding these connections is a critical step in healing and moving forward.
Aging Gracefully and the Role of Resilience
The conversation then turned to resilience, an essential factor in aging gracefully. Brubaker emphasized celebrating life’s achievements, stating, “Our experiences should be celebrated because they build resilience.” For older adults, maintaining an awareness of their lifetime accomplishments can foster a sense of fulfillment and purpose even in new life stages.
Breaking Loneliness and Anxiety
Brubaker also addressed the challenges of loneliness and anxiety, particularly prevalent among older generations. She encourages community engagement and self-permission to engage in activities that feel manageable. Her empowering message was clear: it’s essential to focus on positive experiences and maintain connections, even when it feels daunting. 
Embracing Mental Health Support
Jessica’s insights stressed the importance of seeking mental health support, whether through therapy or personal development practices. She stated, “A good therapist walks you through untangling those core beliefs,” reinforcing the therapeutic journey as a means of self-discovery and healing.
Neelam Brar concluded the episode by urging listeners to take proactive steps in nurturing their mental and emotional health. With the support of Total Life and Medicare-covered therapy services, embracing these strategies is within reach for everyone.
