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Neelam Brar & Scott Couchenour on Living with Intention Beyond Midlife

In a recent episode of the “Mind My Age” podcast, host Neelam Brar delves deep with Scott Couchenour, founder of Serving Strong and a renowned transitions coach. They explore the intricacies of living life by design rather than default, especially as we age. Scott’s unique approach and philosophy have guided many through life’s turbulent waters, offering a beacon of hope and direction.

Shaping Your Future with Intention

Scott Couchenour believes in the power of mindset to influence well-being, especially as we age. “I believe, and always have, it starts in the mind,” he states. His personal life changes, particularly the closure of a family business, led him to redefine his approach, shifting from living by default to living by design. Through this new lens, he emphasizes the importance of having a purpose, which can significantly reduce regrets and enhance life’s fulfillment.

The Six Hallmarks of a Fantastic Life

Scott outlines six hallmarks essential for a fulfilling life: spiritual anchoredness, physical fitness, relational richness, emotional health, vocational alignment, and financial freedom. Each hallmark interconnects, ensuring a well-rounded approach to life’s challenges. “When you live intentionally, you have fewer regrets, and you enjoy life today in the moment.” By focusing on these pillars, especially as we approach life’s later stages, we can craft a life that’s both intentional and rewarding. 

Relational Richness: The Cornerstone of Aging Well

Relationships are paramount as we age. Scott highlights their importance: “We were born for the community.” Particularly during the ‘fourth quarter’ of life, cultivating deep, meaningful relationships can be enriching. Maintaining relational richness, despite the complexities and histories, can be navigated through intentionality and commitment to community.

Scott’s 90-Day Sprint: The Path to Action

Scott emphasizes the power of execution through his 90-day sprints, a method that prioritizes short-term, measurable goals over broader yearly resolutions. “If I had a year goal…I’m going to come to November around Thanksgiving and say, ‘Oh crap.'” These 90-day plans create momentum, ensuring that progress is both visible and achievable and allowing for course corrections at regular intervals.

Facing Major Life Transitions

With an impending wave of retirements, particularly among baby boomers, many face the daunting challenge of navigating life after decades-long careers. Scott provides clarity: “The answer in my mind is to have a plan, to have a strategy.” He urges individuals to leverage personal strategic plans, using tools like the six hallmarks and 90-day sprints to transition into new phases of life smoothly.

Building a Strategy: A Personal Journey

For those feeling uncertain about the future, Scott advises starting simply. “Pick something you’re not happy with in your life. Write it down, begin to journal…and then take action.” By consistently iterating, individuals can construct a personalized strategy that reflects their values and aspirations.

A Balanced Approach: The Role of Therapy

Scott acknowledges the profound interplay between coaching and therapy. While coaching is forward-focused, therapy addresses past challenges. “It’s a perfect combination when a therapist and a coach can work side by side,” he notes. This dual approach ensures holistic growth and healing for those navigating life’s intricate pathways.

In closing, Scott Couchenour’s insights resonate deeply—life need not be lived passively, by default. With purposeful intent and strategic planning, one’s later years can be a rich tapestry of growth, fulfillment, and joy. Remember, as Scott aptly puts it, “Your best years are still ahead.” Embrace them with purpose and intention.