As you grow older, it can start to feel like you’re “too old” to improve your life through New Year’s resolutions. However, it’s never too late to make a change for the better—and letting yourself feel stuck is the worst thing you can do. In fact, having specific goals for the future can be hugely beneficial for healthy aging.

According to Dr. Mark Nathanson, who was interviewed by the Columbia University Irving Medical Center, having goals for the future is a sign of good mental health. A common sign of depression—a common health concern for older adults—is a hopeless or apathetic attitude towards the future; someone who is depressed might think that there’s no point in thinking about tomorrow, because it doesn’t matter. Having a future-oriented mindset and being able to look forward to something is crucial for maintaining your mental health.

While goal setting can be done at any time, the beginning of a new year can feel like the easiest time. When people want to set goals, they tend to start at a milestone of some kind—such as the first of the month, on their birthday, or at the start of a school year. Therefore, New Year’s Day can help to provide that extra little push that many feel they need. With that being said, many resolutions end up losing steam and petering out well before the end of the year; while the exact percentages vary by source, one study by the National Library of Medicine found that around half of all resolutions fail just within the first month of the New Year. While these statistics can sound disheartening, there are several strategies that you can use to improve your chances of success.

Tips and Tricks

When making your resolutions you may find yourself focusing on things that you want to stop doing. Whether it’s reducing bad habits, avoiding unhealthy foods, or quitting smoking, many people will naturally build goals centered on being avoidant or restrictive. However, multiple studies have shown that it is approach-oriented goals, rather than avoidance-oriented goals, that have the best results. One such study by the NLM found that participants with avoidant goals were only 47.1% likely to succeed, as opposed to the 58.9% success rate of those with approach-oriented goals. This means that you should try to focus less on what you want to avoid, and more on what actions you can take to reach your desired outcome. For example, if your goal is to eat healthy, you could try replacing unhealthy snacks with healthier alternatives, rather than trying to cut out unhealthy snacking altogether. 

Alongside this, you should also try to make your goals as achievable as possible, which can be accomplished by following the SMART goal guidelines. SMART, which stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound, allows you to make manageable goals that are less likely to fail. In a guideline by the University of Utah, it is suggested that you ask yourself a series of questions when making your goals. These include questions like “Why am I doing this?” “How realistic is this for my lifestyle?” and “What can I learn from those who have achieved success in these areas?” Asking yourself these leading questions can help you to refine initial goals—which might be unclear or overwhelming—and set you on the right track with specific, attainable, and relevant goals.

SMART goals are also characterized by their time-bound and measurable nature. When workshopping your goals, it’s important to build in a method of tracking or measuring your progress, as well as a clear “due date” for their completion. While you may be tempted to set the due date as the start of the next year, science has shown that having far off end dates can increase  procrastination—this is what dooms a lot of otherwise promising resolutions. Instead, try setting yourself interim goals with due dates spread throughout the year, with each smaller part adding to the larger overall goal. If your goal is to have a healthy, well balanced diet by the end of the year, you might set a smaller goal of eating one healthy meal a week by February, then a slightly larger goal of two good meals a week by April. This can prevent procrastination by making it harder to push your goals off “because you still have lots of time”.

Another excellent way of holding yourself accountable for your goals is to join forces with someone else. As an older adult, your social circle may be smaller than it once was. Nevertheless, chances are that you have a few close friends or family members who you could ask to help you to stay on track. This may even inspire them to make their own goals for the upcoming year! With your loved one, you can try setting up weekly, biweekly, or monthly sessions to check in on your progress together; along with preventing procrastination and increasing motivation, these sessions can be a great way to schedule routine social time together, providing bonding opportunities and improving your mental health. 

Identify Your Own Resolutions

Now that you are an expert on goal setting, you can start the process of identifying and refining your own New Year’s resolutions. Right now, try grabbing a pencil and paper and brainstorming ideas for resolutions. These initial ones won’t be perfect, but they don’t have to be—the aim of this exercise is simply to get your initial thoughts out. So go ahead! Try that out now.

If you have come up with some ideas, you can now look for common themes. Perhaps your goals are mostly centered around getting more exercise, or eating better, or improving your sleep quality; perhaps you have no clear common themes at all. Whatever the case may be, try to pick or find goals or themes that are most important to you, and then expand on them using the SMART method mentioned earlier. This will help to set you up with solid, actionable goals which you can implement into your life.

For some of you, coming up with these goals may be tricky. Not to worry! The rest of this article will detail some common New Year’s resolution themes for older adults, as well as examples of SMART goals for each. These examples are simply there to help inspire you, and can be adapted or combined to fit your unique lifestyle—just make sure to keep them achievable and realistic!

Building a Healthy Exercise Routine

A common goal for older adults is to exercise more, and for good reason. According to the CDC, staying physically active has incredible mental and physical benefits, in both the short term and the long term. Most notably for older adults, physical activity can reduce the risks of 8 different cancers, improve bone strength, and reduce the risks of falls through improving balance and coordination. It can also improve brain and heart health, lower blood pressure, and reduce symptoms of several mental health conditions including depression and anxiety. Those with chronic pain and cognitive decline can also benefit from regular exercise. 

Exercising more is a great resolution because it can be done in so many ways. As an older adult, you may experience various physical limitations which can make standard exercises such as running or biking very challenging. Fortunately, exercise can also mean walking, dancing, seated exercises, yoga, tai chi, and a whole range of other low-impact activities which provide the same benefits while being easier on your body. If you are able to do higher intensity activities, you can also do that instead! The trick is to find a method of movement which feels good for you.

Once you have found this method, the next step is to create an actionable goal with a clear indicator of success. This might mean doing a specific exercise for 10 measurable minutes of the day, at an achievable intensity, targeting relevant muscles, with time-bound increases in duration—for example, going from 10 minutes to 15 minutes per day by the end of April. Again, this will be different for everybody, and you will likely have to change some of the specifics before this goal will work for you. Stick to the SMART guidelines, and you should have no trouble in tweaking it to your needs.

Boosting Your Diet

Another common resolution is simply to “eat healthier”. As an older adult, your diet matters more than ever, as you now need less calories than you did in your youth, but still require the same amount of nutrients. As a result, eating nutrient-dense foods while limiting nutrient-poor snacks and controlling your portion sizes is essential. 

According to the official Dietary Guidelines for Americans, your meals as an older adult should consist of mostly nutrient-dense foods including “vegetables, fruits, whole grains, seafood, eggs, beans, (…) unsalted nuts and seeds, fat-free and low-fat dairy products, and lean meats”. These foods should be prepared with little to no added sugars, saturated fats, and sodium to ensure optimal nutrient density while keeping your caloric intake within the target range. As an older adult, you also need more of specific nutrients. In particular, getting enough protein is essential, as it can reduce the loss of muscle mass.

To make your healthy eating resolution, try to first think about your current diet. What kinds of foods are you eating? Are you getting enough protein? Do you find yourself snacking mindlessly throughout the day? These kinds of questions can help you to identify potential areas for growth. For those of you looking to improve the intake of a particular nutrient, such as protein, your SMART goal might look like eating more foods from a specific list (such as lean meats, soy products, eggs, or other protein-rich foods), measuring your progress with a habit tracker, starting with an achievable goal of one protein-rich meal per week, thereby targeting a nutrient relevant to your health. The time-bound aspect could include upping your protein intake by increasing the frequency of your nutrient-rich meals over the span of a few months, or focusing on including a new healthy food into your diet each month. Again, the goal is to find a target that works for you and adjust your SMART goal to fit your lifestyle!

Improving Your Social Life

In the aforementioned interview by the Columbia University Irving Medical Center, Dr. Mark Nathanson shared that the one resolution he hoped every older adult would make was to “have some companionship”. As more research emerges on the negative effects of social isolation, it has become increasingly clear that being cut off from human connection is detrimental to both your physical and mental health. This is especially true for older adults, who are most likely to experience social isolation.

Because of this, in order to preserve your quality of life, it’s important to find ways to stay social. To start, try examining your goals for your social life—are you looking to reconnect with old friends, or meet new people? Do you want to have long and thoughtful talks, or do you want smaller, more frequent outings? Identifying your personal style of socializing can help to create guidelines to follow in the next few steps.

Once you have identified your general goals, you should start thinking about actionable ways to make them happen. If you are looking to reconnect with current friends, your goal could be to call three specific friends for at least 15 measurable minutes, at an achievable frequency (perhaps once a week) in order to deepen these relevant social connections. As with the other goals mentioned above, the time-bound aspect can vary; it might look like increasing the duration or frequency of your calls each month, or increasing the number of friends you call from 3 friends to 5 by February. As long as you are finding ways to set interim goals for yourself, anything goes!

If your goal is to meet new people, you might try joining a new volunteering initiative each month, or attending a book club meeting. You could start by visiting a local community center to look for volunteer postings, or by searching online using a platform like Meetup. From there, use the SMART guidelines to build yourself an actionable plan!

Bettering Your Overall Lifestyle

If your goals are not strictly confined to one particular thing, like exercising or socializing, you may simply be looking to improve your overall lifestyle. If that is the case, there are several methods you can use to try and approach this challenge.

First, you might try focusing on replacing bad habits. As mentioned earlier, resolutions centered around avoidance have higher failure rates; instead of trying to quit through willpower alone, try to think of good habits that you can use to replace or reduce bad habits. An actionable resolution might look like replacing a specific habit, like drinking alcohol, with a better habit like drinking water. This could be measured by the amount of alcohol you have replaced—for example, you could try keeping a running tally of the number of drinks you have replaced with water. By doing this in an achievable way (like replacing one drink per week to start) you will be able to see relevant results, and be able to make time-bound progress by moving on to two drinks per week, then three, and so on.

Simply building new healthy habits can also be a great resolution. For older adults, some ideas for beneficial habits include meditation, regular creative time, and dedicating time to learning new things. Learning new things in particular has been proven to improve cognitive function and prevent dementia! Try picking a relevant, specific skill to learn each month, and dedicate 5 ~ 15 minutes a day to this skill. By keeping the duration short to start, you’ll be able to keep your goals achievable, and make sure you stay on track. Interim goals could be to increase the duration of your learning from 5 minutes to 10 after a month, and then move on to 15, 20, or 30 minutes after that.

Cleaning or organizing your environment can also be a great habit. If you have documents that you need to get in order, like a will, you can make completing it your big goal for the year. Try spending 10 minutes a day on it, and measure your progress through interim goals spaced throughout the year.

Final Remarks

No matter your age, New Year’s resolutions can be a powerful tool to improve your life. By using the SMART method and choosing goals that are right for you, you’ll be able to set yourself on track. Remember, no one is perfect, and setbacks are a natural part of change! Try not to get frustrated with yourself, and instead focus on what you can do to make your resolutions easier for yourself. And, as a final note, don’t be afraid to reward yourself when you’ve done something well! Intermittent rewards can help to keep you motivated throughout the whole year.

Sometimes the pressure of the holiday season can create a rollercoaster of emotion for older adults. This might have been a time of year that used to bring them great joy, but now they are struggling with loneliness and a feeling that they’re losing control. Coupled with the idea that this is the time of year when they really should feel happy, and it can leave older adults at a higher risk of suffering from anxiety and depression, just as others are joyfulling trimming their tree.

As a caregiver you are likely already dealing with your own personal stress when it comes to the holidays. Caring for the rest of your family, dealing with work commitments and somehow trying to fit in some kind of social life, it can be easy to become overwhelmed. But thankfully, we’re here to help. Read on to find out how you can manage you and your loved ones’ expectations so that you can actually enjoy the holidays. 

Talk in Advance

It’s very common for the holidays to erupt into arguments and disappointments simply because nobody talked to each other about their expectations. Everyone has their own feelings about how the holidays should go and what will make the season joyful for them. However, it’s helpful to find out what is truly important. You might want a big dinner, but only because you think that’s what other people want. In reality other people might not care as much, and doing all that cooking just stresses you out. Instead, maybe you can simplify things by having a big breakfast and a smaller dinner, ordering take out or getting catering. Don’t get stuck in the idea of what a holiday should be. 

Sit down with the people you’re going to celebrate the holidays with and talk through what’s important to everyone. There might have to be some adjustments due to cost or logistics, but see what might be possible. Did you used to all go to a movie together but now it’s just too expensive or the older adult you care for isn’t able to due to mobility limitations? Instead, maybe you can rent a movie at home and get some fun movie theater snacks like popcorn and candy. That way you can still prioritize what’s important but do it in a way that works for you. 

In addition to having a conversation before the holidays, you should also check in later. Make sure everyone remembers what was talked about so there won’t be any confusion, especially with someone whose memory might not be as strong as it used to be. These check-ins don’t need to be lengthy, just a good testing of the temperature.

Ask for What You Need

Don’t feel like you have to go through this season alone. Even if you are a single parent you can still ask for help from friends, family members and even coworkers. This might look like leaving work an hour early to get some shopping done, or asking a friend to pick up your kid on the last day of school. And, it’s also important to ask whoever you’re celebrating the holidays with to pitch in when it comes to the celebrations. This is especially true if someone wants something (discussed during the talk mentioned above), but it feels like too big of a commitment for you to do on your own. For example, if your partner or teenager loves having a big christmas dinner, but that’s something that you don’t have the capacity to do on your own, then agree on how they can best help you with that task. Maybe that’s peeling the potatoes, cleaning the house or agreeing to forgo homemade gravy this year. It’s unfair to have all the expectations of the holiday fall on you, so make it clear that if loved ones have certain expectations then they need to contribute to help make them possible. 

If it’s the loved one you care for that’s asking for something that feels out of reach, then it’s important to have an honest conversation with them about your limitations. Try to dig into what it is that they’re really after. If they’re asking for a big dinner then maybe all they’re seeking is a moment of connection, which can be had with a dedicated time together sharing tea and cookies. Or maybe they really love a particular dish at dinner, and agreeing to make that one dish with more modest sides might help fill that yearning. There’s usually a way to meet peoples’ needs, but you just have to talk to them to find out how. 

Of course, sometimes there can be push back against asking for help, especially if it’s from family who aren’t used to pitching in the past. Be prepared to stand your ground. Be kind but firm with your boundaries. It might feel awkward at first, but it will feel much worse if you agree to put together a holiday celebration that you don’t have the energy for. 

Schedule

Sometimes we just need a bit of predictability in our lives. Keeping a schedule is a great way to stay organized during the holidays while also keeping emotions in check. Writing everything down can help you stay on track of commitments, while also staying realistic about what is doing, and what you and your loved ones actually want to prioritize. 

Psychology Today tells us that anticipating an event we’re looking forward to can be very good for our mental health, something that is extra useful during such a busy time of year. If you and the older adult you care for are able to agree on some favorite holiday traditions and have them written down in the calendar then the excitement and anticipation of that event can help keep everyone in a good mood. 

However, there are a few important things to consider here. While it is nice to have events to look forward to, you don’t want to build them up too much. Try to simply look forward to getting to experience something, no matter how it turns out. You don’t want to look forward to drinking hot chocolate at a market just to arrive and find they’ve run out, or go to a concert and find they’re not singing the song you’d been looking forward to hearing. Instead, try to focus on simply enjoying whatever experience you have, and being open to it being different from previous years or other events you’ve been to. Sometimes we build something up so much in our head that once we get there we can be let down if it’s not exactly what we imagined. But there is still so much good and fun to be had that it would be a pity to be so distracted by minor details that you can’t enjoy it. 

Something else to think about is the weather conditions of the event. Is there any chance it could be cancelled, and if so, do you have a backup plan? You don’t have to plan anything extensive, but having a few ideas in the back of your mind can help avoid any meltdowns. 

Finally, be sure to schedule appropriately when it comes to timing. Account for traffic, parking, and whether or not you require a ticket for where you’re going. Research might seem tedious, but it can save you a big headache down the road!

Build New Traditions

Something that can be upsetting for older adults is that certain elements of their life might need to adjust as they get older, and that certain holiday traditions might not be possible for them anymore. That might be because of their mobility – downhill skiing might not be safe, or their hands might be too stiff to make hundreds of cookies to deliver to friends and family. And it might be too challenging for you or someone else to take over certain traditions, or you might not be interested in the traditions they want to continue. 

Instead, it might be a good idea to take this as an opportunity not to mourn the loss of old traditions, but to celebrate the creation of new ones. Maybe instead of hours spent cooking decorating you can buy a few treats and make a simple ice cream sundae bar. Maybe skiing is out but there’s a beautiful light display you could go look at, or maybe even a sleigh ride? Or maybe you try things that are completely different from any tradition you’ve had before. Try making a brand new type of cuisine for dinner, or compete to see who can find the cheesiest holiday movie and predict the ending together. At the end of the day, most people just want to spend the holidays with the people they love, so don’t worry too much about how that comes about as long as you’re there for each other. If you want to learn more about how to build new traditions, take a look at this article by The Good Trade. 

Be Vulnerable

On that same topic, there can be a lot of sadness around the holidays due to the people who are not with us. While it might be tempting to ignore these absences and put on a happy face, that pain is still going to be there, so why not face it? It doesn’t have to dominate the holiday, but have an honest conversation about your sadness that that person or people are not there with you. Perhaps there can be a way to celebrate them, like putting down a place for them at dinner, making a dish they loved, or simply spending an evening sharing photos and stories. 

Prioritize Mental Health

When planning out your holiday schedule make sure that you’re allowing time for what brings you peace. It’s hard to keep your cool in a stressful situation if you are overtired and haven’t had a chance to unwind. And the loved one you care for might also be in desperate need of a little TLC. Perhaps you book both of you therapy appointments. Your loved one can find a wonderful therapist focused on the needs of older adults at Total Life. 

When planning a new tradition you might even consider adding in some that are specifically focused on self care. Maybe you plan a spa night where you soak your feet in warm water and put on face masks. Or maybe self care looks like going for a swim or enjoying a delicious burger. Whatever is going to make you feel your best you should do it, because it will help you show up as your best and happiest self. 

Remember, that even though a little indulgence can feel good sometimes, a big part of keeping our minds and body healthy is through a healthy diet, sleep and exercise, so while self care might be enjoying a glass of wine or some chocolates now and then, it’s important that that doesn’t tip over into a binge that will have the opposite effect than was intended. Instead, focus on habits that can make you feel good, with cues from Healthline.

Make Gifts Easy

It doesn’t matter how old you get, it can still be easy to be disappointed if you don’t get the gift you were hoping for. It’s also distressingly easy to overspend during the holidays, because you might think you need to go all out in order for your loved ones to enjoy the season.

Giving and receiving gifts should be joyful so why over complicate it? Set some guidelines for gift giving this year, so that you can relax, and everyone can feel confident that they’ll receive something they need or want. Here are some things to think about:

• Cost. If finances are tight, or if you know that some loved ones might feel self conscious about the amount they can afford, it might be a good idea to set a price limit. This way no one has to feel overburdened, or like they didn’t spend enough on a present when someone got them a gift that cost way more. 
• Consider assigning gifts. If you and your family are in a place to get gifts for everyone and you want to do so then that’s totally fine, but if that seems stressful and too expensive then why not participate in a secret santa or some other kind of gift exchange, like the ones suggested on Martha Stewart? This way everyone still gets something, but you don’t have to worry about buying gifts for a dozen people. 
• Make wish lists. If you want something specific then let that be known. Not everyone is a good gift-getter, and having a list can alleviate stress while ensuring you still get something you want. Have everyone else make a list as well. And be sure to check in with others – is there something they really need? Try to focus on others’ wishes. Sometimes you might want to give something fun but your loved one might want something practical like socks or a giftcard to a grocery store. If you get them something fun then you’re buying for you, not for them. Listening to each other allows everyone to be happy. 
• Discuss if you and your loved ones actually want gifts. Sometimes families just want to spend time together and the gifts aren’t important. Gifts can be a love language so don’t ignore that if that’s the case, but often quality time or something simple and small is just what the holiday calls for. 

Holidays can be difficult, so be sure to give you and your loved ones grace. However, with a bit of planning and the implementation of the tips above, you should be looking at a jolly holiday.

Holiday season can be a lot of fun! The sparkling lights, warm family dinners, and cheesy Hallmark movies bring a feeling of cheer and joy like no other. However, this time of year can also feel lonely—especially if you’re living alone, or can’t get out like you used to. No matter the reason, it can be very difficult to see everyone feeling the joy while you’re feeling down. While anyone can struggle with holiday blues, the unfortunate truth is that older adults are often most affected.

Luckily, even though it may be hard to see, there are ways to make your holidays feel brighter. With an open mind and willingness to adapt, you’ll be surprised at just how many ways you can make changes for the better.

Common Challenges

Many things can cause you to feel down during the holidays. As an older adult, life can feel harder in general as a result of your aging body, even outside of the holiday season. Joint problems, mobility issues, and health conditions like arthritis, diabetes, and chronic pain can all add up and start to weigh on you; this in turn can impact your mental health, and can lead to conditions like depression and anxiety in severe cases. For example, according to the National Institute on Aging, people with other medical conditions, sleep problems, and those who are socially isolated—all common in older adults—are at a greater risk of developing depression. Add in the dark and gloomy weather of winter, and these feelings can become overwhelming.

The weather can also make it harder to get outside for purely practical reasons. As temperatures grow colder, you may need to deal with ice, snow, rain, and other hazardous conditions. For those who have fallen in the past, or those who have osteoporosis, this can be an especially big concern, and may prevent you from going out as much as you would like to. This, paired with the age-related challenges mentioned earlier, can lead to the first common challenge: isolation.

The second common challenge is past memories. While many of you likely have fond memories of holidays past, these memories can also feel bittersweet. Perhaps you’ve lost a loved one, and Christmas just doesn’t feel the same without them. You may have also moved to a new place and therefore be feeling uprooted from your usual holiday traditions and events. No matter your circumstance, nostalgia can be both pleasant and painful.

Similarly, holiday staples such as gift-giving can also feel both heartwarming and stressful. If you have retired, it can make spending money a bit more of a balancing act than it may have been in your earlier years. Even if you’re still working, it is natural to feel anxious about your spending, whether it be on decorations, food, or presents. This season certainly places a lot of emphasis on lavish displays of wealth! If you live far away from relatives and family members there may also be pressure to visit for the holidays, which can amplify financial stress. 

No matter your challenge, be it finances, mobility, weather, or something else, making simple changes can usually make a surprisingly big difference.

Overcoming Isolation in Person

But what exactly are these small changes? How can you improve your holidays without sacrificing your traditions? Let’s start with the first common challenge for older adults, which is isolation.

Since isolation can cause or worsen conditions like depression, anxiety, and cognitive decline, it is very important to prevent it. To do this, you’ll need to find ways to stay connected with others—luckily, that’s what this season is all about! You may have family traditions like gingerbread house competitions, or a specific concert that you go to each year, which can be great ways to bring people together. In case you don’t have any traditions, or are looking for more inspiration, we have put together several suggestions below.

If the weather is looking nice, going outside to look at Christmas lights can be a fun, low-key outing. Be sure to bundle up as temperatures can drop quickly, especially at night. If you’re hoping to avoid the chill, you could try pairing the walk with a warm restaurant dinner, or a mug of hot chocolate at a local cafe. You might also choose to drive instead of walking, if the temperatures are especially brisk. Just make sure that your driver keeps their eyes on the road!

If you’re hoping to get out of the house but don’t fancy getting food or looking at decorations, you could try a holiday concert! In larger cities, there are usually plenty of options to choose from; a quick search on Google or a browse through your local newspaper can point you in the right direction. If you live in a more rural area, many concerts have an online live streaming option that can allow you to view from your own home! Gathering a few of your friends and watching the show, in person or virtually, can help to bring festive cheer back into your life.

For those of you who prefer to have a cozy night in, try gathering your loved ones to make holiday bakes and crafts. Some ideas include shortbread cookies, gingerbread (bonus points if you make houses with them!), Christmas pudding, or any other baked good that puts you in a festive mood. You can also bake your cookies or gingerbread ahead of time, and then host a cookie decorating party—if you have young grandkids, this can be a great way to bond with them. If you’re more of a crafter than a baker, you might try making some ornaments, wreathes, or handmade cards for your family and friends. The world is your oyster!

In an ideal world, we would be able to see our loved ones whenever we wanted to; however, this is unfortunately not the reality for most people. As an older adult, you may experience this more than others, especially if you have any health issues or are living in a retirement home. Your schedule may also not align with your family members or friends. You may even live in a completely different area of the world! Whatever the case, if meeting in person isn’t feasible, you may want to look into virtual calling platforms. Some examples include Zoom, Google Meet (a great option as it is linked to gmail, which you may already have), and Skype, all of which are free. If you aren’t very tech savvy, you could try to get a loved one to help you out next time they come over, or enlist the help of a neighbour. After setting things up, do your best to call people as much as possible, even if you aren’t very comfortable with technology yet. Practice may not make perfect, but it definitely makes things easier.

Dealing With Past Memories

As an older adult, your past memories may also become a challenge for you. Holidays often come with many associated memories, which can be both joyful and painful. As you grow older, you may also start to experience a loss of memories; conditions such as Alzheimer’s can make previously cherished memories blur and fade, leading to an overwhelming sense of loss. However, just as with other challenges, there are ways to make this easier for you.

If you are struggling with lost or faded holiday memories, going back to your time honoured traditions might just make things a little clearer. According to University of Florida Health, participating in familiar activities can offer you a sense of stability, reduce anxiety, and improve feelings of disorientation. Whether it’s baking your special holiday cookies, listening to your favourite Christmas song, or eating dinner with your family, including these traditions in your holiday activities can offer comfort during these overwhelming times.

Reminding yourself of positive past memories can also help you to reminisce in a positive way. Family photo albums, home videos, scrapbooks, diaries, and similar things can all hold many previously forgotten memories. Looking at pictures from specific trips or years can also help to sharpen fuzzy memories! As you go through these, you may also be able to recall stories to share with your family and friends, which is a great way to bond and pass on your valuable knowledge.

Even if your past holiday memories are not sources of joy, it doesn’t mean that you cannot make new, more positive memories now. Beyond hanging out with your loved ones, you might also try giving back to your community through volunteer work. Many churches will host Christmas lunches to support unhoused or low-income persons, which can be a great way to spread kindness and cheer during the holidays. If you knit, crochet, or sew, making warm hats and scarves for those in need may also be an option. No matter the cause you choose to support, generosity will always be in season!

It is important to note that it is natural to experience feelings of loss, disorientation, and sadness due to past memories. Allowing yourself to experience these emotions as they come and accepting them can actually help you to feel better in the long run. Consequently, holding back these feelings and forcing yourself to feel cheerful can lead to a worse mental state. This is not to say that intense, intrusive, or highly distressing thoughts should be ignored—far from it. If your negative emotions are disrupting your day-to-day life, you may have a more serious condition. If you are struggling, always seek help through qualified mental health professionals.

Overcoming Financial Stress

The final common challenge that we have touched on is financial stress. As mentioned above, holidays often place a lot of emphasis on gift giving; but sometimes, the best thing you can give is the gift of time spent together with those you love. While opulent displays of affection are often praised, holidays should be about connecting with others—try not to lose sight of that.

However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t give gifts! Giving someone a personalized present can be a great way of showing how well you know them and how much they mean to you. If you enjoy giving presents to your family and friends, but are working within a tighter budget, try creating handmade gifts from things you already have. This also has the bonus of making your gifts feel more special, since putting in the work to create a gift can make it much more meaningful than simply buying it. If you do any kind of crafting—knitting, crocheting, painting, sewing, etc—try putting those skills to use! Chances are that you already have a stash of supplies, meaning that you’ll be less likely to have to spend lots of money. If you do need to get some supplies, try to create a budget and stick to it. Get creative if you have to!

Even if you don’t consider yourself an artistic person, there are several other ways that you can make your own gifts. For example, if you have a few special recipes that you’d like to pass on to your children or grandkids, you could make a recipe book or set of recipe cards. With an unused notebook, some cardstock, or simply a hole-punch and some yarn, you might just start a family cookbook that will be passed down for generations to come. And, if you have some artists in the family, you could turn the process of making the recipe book into a bonding moment by inviting them to add their own personal touches. Another example is gifting propagated plant cuttings, if you happen to have a green thumb. Though these gifts may not seem like much, they might just turn into cherished family heirlooms down the line.

Another big money-sink during the holidays is travel. If the majority of your family lives out of state, you may be expected to make the trek out to see them, which can quickly eat up your budget. Whenever possible, having family members visit you instead of going out to visit them can greatly lower the strain on your wallet. However, this isn’t always possible. Maybe your child just had a kid of their own and doesn’t want to travel with a newborn, or your nieces have other plans that they can’t cancel; there are many, many reasons why things might not work out. If your budget is tight, joining family events virtually can ease financial stress while still giving you that crucial connection with your relatives. While this isn’t the ideal situation, it can help to give you a bit more money to work with. If you play your cards right, this might even help you to make the trip out to see them in person next year.

Otherwise, doing some odd jobs to make some extra money can give you some more financial freedom. Many online sites have lists of potential earning opportunities for older adults, including this one by Indeed. Some highlights from this list include tutoring, working as a consultant, and doing freelance work with your past experience. If you have retired, you likely have a fairly impressive resume with lots of work experience—why not put it to work?

Final Remarks

While they can be beautiful and full of joy, the holidays can be a tricky time of year—especially as an older adult. Whether you are dealing with loss, social isolation, tighter budgets, or anything else, it is important to understand that you are not alone. There are many ways in which you can start to turn things around, like participating in accessible activities, going virtual, and switching your focus from presents to presence. In the end, remember: the holidays are not about the food, or the gifts; they’re about building connection, giving love, and spreading cheer so that everyone can feel it.

So the time has come to arrange care for a loved one. This is often a highly emotional process, and it can be easy to quickly become overwhelmed by everything you need to research and plan for. However, with a little bit of organization you can make the process seamless and pain free…or, at least as simple as possible! 

1. Address Care Early

Too often, care becomes an urgent matter because everyone has been too awkward to bring it up before things get serious. This can cause unnecessary stress and anxiety for all parties involved, and can also sometimes mean that the solutions are not ideal because they were found in a panic. With this in mind, it is highly advisable to address the matter of care with your parents as early as possible, ideally before it’s something that might even cross their minds. This might seem uncomfortable at first, but if you frame it as simply wanting to have a plan in place that has their full support then it will likely be received much more positively than you were to spring a plan on them when their health begins to deteriorate. 

Instead, sit them down before anything gets serious, and when you first start to notice signs of aging, such as your mom or dad moving slower than before, or struggling with their memory. Ask what plans they might already have in place, and what their wishes are for their care. Also be sure to ask what the plan is if they aren’t able to stick to their ideal plan. Many older adults want to stay independent, which is completely understandable, but unfortunately that often means they don’t plan for any other possibility. And unfortunately, most older adults don’t have the luxury of being able to continue living on their own as they age, as illness and other impairments often get in the way. 

Gently nudge your parents on what kind of plan they’d like to follow if they are experiencing a serious cognitive condition such as dementia or Alzheimer’s, or if they suffer a drastic injury. Of course nobody wants to think about such upsetting topics, but again, this is about making sure that your parents still have agency, even if they end up losing cognitive function, you’ll know you are honoring their wishes. 

2. Pressing Issues

Every situation is different, and in many cases an older adult may need support for several different issues. Care can come in several forms, and might range from having someone deliver groceries or coming to clean a few times a week, to placing your mom or dad in round the clock, secure memory care. It’s a good idea to sit down to figure out what needs attention the most urgently and address that first. Of course, your loved one should always be involved in this conversation unless there is a valid reason why they’re not able to, such as extreme cognitive decline. However, hopefully you address matters early enough that they are able to be a part of this important process. 

When thinking about the care that your loved one needs, consider how many providers are needed. If they require help with a few simple household tasks then that might be able to be attended to by a caregiver or even a regular cleaner. Perhaps they just need a few deliveries set up if they are not as mobile as they were before, or, in some situations you might be looking at moving them into full time care. 

It may not be possible for you to address all the needs your loved one has at the same time, so prioritize. The most important thing is their safety, so look at what they need help with and make sure that anything that is needed to provide physical or emotional safety to them is the first thing you attend to. After that you can turn to elements that look after comfort or increase their comfort or accessibility. If your loved one is not safe then looking after their other needs won’t help them much. Again, making this list with your loved one is always best, but if not then doing so with another member of their support network or a trusted medical professional is another good option. 

3. Keep Track

When older adults get to the point of needing care there are often lots of appointments with doctors and specialists, plus interviews with caregivers or care homes. Even after care is arranged there is often a lot happening each week, such as physical therapy and other medical treatment. With such a busy schedule it’s important that you keep everything documented in a day planner or a calendar on your phone so that you and your loved one don’t miss any important appointments or events. 

Not everyone loves keeping a calendar, but, according to the Jed Foundation, keeping track of your schedule can help keep stress levels and anxiety at bay and better organize for events you look forward to, like spending time with friends or putting aside an evening for a nice dinner at home. 

Keeping track doesn’t just mean keeping a schedule, it’s also useful to write down health information for your loved one in something that is often referred to as a health journal. This is so you can easily track any changes in your loved one’s condition. You don’t have to rack your brain for when they started seeing a specialist or taking a particular medication, instead you can simply take a quick glance at the journal. This is a great way to be able to see how your parents improve or deteriorate over time. Our memories aren’t always the most reliable, so it might be easy to trick yourself into thinking behavior your mom or dad is exhibiting is normal, when really it’s a new development that could signal a health issue. Keeping a journal is also very useful in emergency situations where you might need to be able to provide health information quickly. 

4. Let Your Parents Loved Ones Lead

Many older adults might already have a plan in place for aging, and it’s important to respect their wishes. While there will be some circumstances where their physical or mental health won’t allow them to continue living independently or without some form of care, in other cases you may simply disagree on what level of care is appropriate. In those cases the best thing you can do is let it go. Your parents are adults and they are allowed to make their own choices. You might not like the choices they make and may be scared for their safety, but ultimately there isn’t really anything you can do if they’re not willing to accept your help. The best thing you can do in these situations is to do your best to let it go. Look to Psychology Today for some tips.

5. Know Your Boundaries

Dealing with aging and/or ill loved ones can bring up a lot of emotions and old resentments. It can be easy to fall into arguments and allow yourself to be taken advantage of by offering up more than you are capable of taking on. Caregiving is demanding, and unless you are mentally prepared for it it can lead to poor mental health and eventually to burnout. That’s why it’s so important to set boundaries early on when it comes to arranging care for your loved ones. Figure out what you are and are not willing to help with, and what adjustments you feel comfortable making in your own life to support your loved one during this difficult transition. Of course there may be times when finances or another confining element makes you give more of your time or money than you would like, but even in those circumstances make sure to take a step back to see what changes can be made. Sometimes adult children operate out of a feeling of obligation to their parents, which can quickly turn to resentment. Is your loved one truly not able to cover the cost of their own care, or do they simply not want to? Aging can be expensive, but that shouldn’t all fall to you. Know your limits before you end up in a tricky situation that’s hard for you to make your way out of. 

6. Keep Everyone Informed

As has already been stated, organization is extremely helpful for keeping stress levels down, so think about how you can do it in all areas. There are likely lots of people who also care about your loved ones, so keep them in the loop so that they understand what is happening and can step in with ease if for some reason you are unavailable in the case of an emergency. This might look like keeping a list of important phone numbers, medications and any allergies or conditions that others in your loved one’s support network should be aware of. This is also helpful for you to bring to appointments so that you can be sure you don’t miss anything if asked. Sometimes we forget important details in high stress situations, so having it all written down can be very helpful and in some cases even prevent fatal outcomes! 

Of course, you should always have consent from your loved one before sharing sensitive medical information if they are able to provide it. 

Along with medical information it’s always nice to jot down preferences that your loved one has that can increase their comfort. Knowing your loved one likes having slippers on inside is not a life or death detail, but if it can help to make their life a little bit better than it’s absolutely worth it to pass that information on to other care providers. 

7. Financial Plan

While your loved one might have an idea of how they want their golden years to play out, the reality is that the vision they have may not be feasible for them financially. Home Care Care News outlines how unaffordable home care is becoming, and many care homes also come at an exorbitant cost. It’s important to look ahead at what different scenarios actually cost, and then plan accordingly. It’s obviously going to be upsetting if your loved one is able to organize the exact lifestyle they desire, but if the situation is tackled early, then at least the best alternative can be arranged. 

8. Find Care Providers

Finding care providers was touched on earlier, but it’s worth a second mention. There can often be lengthy waitlists for specialists and interviewing caregivers can sometimes take a good amount of time. See what information you can get over email, or find out what communications you can have over the phone or via video call, such as online therapy via Total Life. It can save a lot of time to not have to run around town to have meetings in person. 

9. Declutter

Older adults have a rich history with lots of interesting stories, but with that history often comes a lot of stuff. Organizing care for a loved one is the perfect time to start sorting through their belongings to figure out which sentimental items should stay, and what can be donated or discarded. This will make any transition to a smaller home easier, and will also help ease the work for caregivers who may not be comfortable working in an extremely cluttered home. There’s also another very good reason to consider decluttering as part of your care plan. Neuroscience News tells us that clutter can lead to stress and anxiety, which is not what anyone needs when dealing with an already stressful situation!

10. Where There’s a Will…There’s a Will…

No one wants to imagine their loved ones dying, but it’s a reality that has to be faced, especially as they grow older. That’s why it’s so important that you encourage your loved one to complete their will and get any other important affairs in order. Inheritance can be a heated matter within families, and that is especially true if a proper will wasn’t drawn up before death. Completing a will will allow your loved one to focus on their health with the knowledge that the friends and family they leave behind won’t be sorting through legal matters after their death. Plus, it’s so important to attend to legal matters early, as cognitive decline can affect the legality of wills if left to the last minute. Investopedia does a nice breakdown on what a will covers. 

There are so many matters to think about when organizing care for a loved one, but these tips should help give you direction in a time that can be stressful and highly emotional. While the care you’re organizing might be for your loved one, a bonus tip is to not forget about yourself. You are likely going to have moments of anger and sadness throughout this process so be sure to give yourself time to rest, cry, go for a run or anything else that can help you regulate your emotions and get back to work in a stable state. You’ve got this!

It’s natural for seniors to require a bit of help as they age. Bodies start to slow down, and it can become more and more difficult to recall memories, even for someone who stays healthy and active. 

Sometimes disease rears its ugly head and speeds up the aging process, making it difficult to think clearly, or rapidly restricting mobility. For those individuals, it’s likely they’ll need help even sooner than others. 

But for those who are otherwise healthy, there are several habits one can adopt to potentially extend the ability to be independent. Even if struggling with another condition, these are all practical tips that can benefit anyone of any age. 

If you’re an adult child who is concerned about the wellbeing of your parent, and want to help them live as independent a life as possible, then here are ways you can support them. And hey, this is good advice for yourself as well. That, or give this article to your kids for them to read when the time comes. 

Puzzles

If you don’t like puzzles…too bad, because you’re about to! Puzzles have been shown by experts via Reader’s Digest to improve memory recall, increase discipline, and just generally get our brains going. Our brains enjoy being active and learning, and challenging them with something complex like a puzzle is like giving food to our minds. Puzzles are a great activity to introduce to your parent because there are so many different kinds, and it’s something that you can do together or they can do on their own. 

If the idea of puzzles truly isn’t appealing to you or them, don’t worry – there are so many different kinds of puzzles that there is sure to be something that’s a great fit. Here are a couple of ideas:

• Jigsaw puzzles – this is the traditional kind of puzzle you might think of when you say the word, ‘puzzle.’ You spend time putting together pieces to make a picture, and then celebrate because that was hard! You can also get 3D puzzles, which can make fun decorations around the house and are also good for bragging rights. Jigsaw puzzles come in a variety of sizes so start small, maybe with a 100 piece one, to see if you enjoy it. 

• Word puzzles – this can cover a wide variety of puzzles. They might include word finds, crosswords, or games where you’re given a combination of letters and have to come up with as many different words as possible within a certain time limit.
• Rubik’s cube – a classic 3D puzzle where you have to organize a colored cube until all sides have the same color. A delightful challenge. 
• Memory games – this might take the form of cards in pairs that you have to remember, or trying to memorize a series of objects in front of you after only a few seconds of looking at them. 

There are so many other puzzle options to choose from. Try checking out your local thrift store, or going onto neighborhood community groups to see if anyone has some they’re getting rid of. There are also lots of free word games online, and most grocery and book stores carry books that have crosswords and sudoku. Before long it will likely be something that both of you look forward to doing each day. 

Get Active

A great way to encourage independence is by helping your parent’s mobility. There’s a ton of evidence that supports how beneficial exercise is to everyone, but especially to seniors who start losing muscle mass as they age. Encourage your parent to do some strength training, either through at-home videos, their local community center, or with a private trainer. Strength training will help them retain muscle, which can make them more mobile and can increase the chances of a faster recovery if they get injured. 

Along with strength training, any increase in exercise is good. Go for a walk together, or make a date to go for a weekly swim. Sometimes someone just needs a good goal to work towards, so maybe you challenge each other to walk a certain number of steps each day, or to try as many different classes at the gym as possible. You could even make bingo style cards for your activities.

Of course, if you are encouraging activity in your parent then you quite literally should be walking the walk. Nobody wants to be preached to by somebody who doesn’t follow their own advice, so get out there. Exercise is not only great for your physical health but also your mental wellness, so it’s a win win for everybody. 

Learning

As we learned from puzzles, our brains love learning, but it’s not just puzzles that benefit us. Any type of learning is good for our brains, so find out what your parent is interested in learning and help facilitate that. Maybe they want to try out a woodworking class, or have always dreamed of learning Italian. Although nothing can stop Alzheimer’s disease, it is thought that learning is one of the best ways of slowing symptoms down, as evidenced by the story of this gentleman, on CBC News, who decided to enroll at university after receiving his diagnosis. 

If you’ve ever worked out a lot and then stopped for a period of time you might notice how stiff you are when you go back to the gym for the first time. Suddenly you’re not able to reach your toes like you used to, and you can’t press the same weight as before. A similar thing happens to our brains if we’re not learning new things and providing stimulation. Of course, this doesn’t mean your parent needs to enroll in a degree (although if they want to and they have the means then that’s great!), but going to a class, watching documentaries, or even taking up something like crocheting is a great way to get their brain going and hold on to that longevity. 

Medical Appointments

A great way to increase your parent’s chance of remaining independent is by ensuring they stay up to date with their medical needs. This means going to regular doctor check ups, staying on top of medications, and making sure they follow up with a doctor or specialist if they have any concerns or need further clarification on a diagnosis. 

It’s also a good idea to talk to them about their mental health. Many seniors are fairly private about mental issues, and might keep symptoms of depression or anxiety a secret. Encouraging them to speak to a mental health therapist or counselor is a great way to keep their stress levels down and better able to focus on the more enjoyable parts of life. Often cost or finding the transportation to a mental health appointment can be a barrier to treatment, so taking them to Total Life’s website, where they can find out more about therapy over the phone, and Medicare coverage, might be helpful in terms of getting them to take the first step towards better health. 

Find Out What They Need

Stress can be very detrimental to one’s health, and sometimes seniors may hide struggles they are having from their family due to shame and embarrassment. This leads to unnecessary stress and anxiety and can eventually lead to much more serious health conditions that could have been avoided if the initial struggle had been attended too much sooner.

To avoid this, try sitting down to chat with your parent to find out if there is anything they are struggling with. This might be something like keeping up with the maintenance of their home, or keeping track of online payments. When broaching this topic, make sure you do so in a comfortable and private place so they feel safe, and make sure to keep any judgement out of your responses. You’re only asking these questions out of a genuine desire to support them and their needs. 

Then, once you find out what the issue is, you can take steps together to address them. Maybe you need to set up automatic payments for them, or help them find a handyman or gardener to take care of some of their needs. Some of the things might even be easy for you to take care of, if it’s something you feel capable and willing to take on. 

We all need help from time to time, and asking for it doesn’t take away from our independence. By finding out what your parent needs now, it might mean they need less help overall in the future. 

Good Food

Just like with exercise, it’s always great to lead by example. If your parent doesn’t have the best diet, it might be time to encourage them to start leaning into healthier habits. Many people don’t want to change their lifestyle, so if you believe their diet is truly one to be concerned about then a good place to start might be with a doctor or nutritionist who can talk through the very real concerns associated with a poor diet, such as type 2 diabetes and heart attacks. 

Again, this might be something that you tackle together. Challenge each other to add one vegetable to every meal, or to skip the sugar in your morning coffee. Little good habits can help feed into bigger ones. 

One of the biggest setbacks people face when trying to eat healthier is to attempt to cut out all junk from their diet, which often means removing everything they enjoy. Instead, try focusing on overall healthier habits, while still making time for an occasional hamburger or drive-thru ice cream. This way you can both meet your goals, while not getting hangry I the process!

Community Involvement

Some seniors struggle with a lack of purpose after they retire. That’s why volunteering can be a great way to get them engaged with their community and help them feel useful and invigorated again. Talk to your parent about what kind of causes they’re interested in, and what sort of time commitment they’d like to make, and together you can look into food options for them. 

If volunteering is not their thing, they might instead look into trying a class or going to an event at their local seniors center. That’s another great way to help them build up a support network around them, and gives them something to look forward to in their week. Even one outing a week can do wonders for someone’s mental health, and often that snowballs into other positive habits. 

Check Yourself

Sometimes adult children worry too much. They see their parents getting older, and struggling with activities that used to come easy to them. This can lead to children overburdening themselves and deciding that their parents are no longer capable of doing anything, but is that really true? Are you doing things for your parents that they don’t actually need help with? Have you let their complacency or anxiety about certain tasks get the better of you and is your helpfulness actually enabling them to become less capable?

This is never something that anybody would want to admit, but it can happen. Now most of the time this comes from a genuine desire to be helpful and supportive to someone you love, but taking away someone’s agency isn’t helping them in the long term. 

Of course, you never want to take away support that your parent genuinely needs, but take a look at what you’re already doing for them, and ask yourself if your parent really can’t take out their garbage, or pick out groceries from the store. If it’s an activity that is unsafe for them or they’re unable to do then of course keep supporting them, but if it’s something you could be a little more light handed with then it might be a good idea to take a step back. It might also be a great idea to have an honest conversation with them. Tell them you still want to help them, but you want to make sure that they stay vibrant and active, and so there might be some activities they need to push themselves to participate in. 

Remember, it’s always a good idea to practice what you preach. If your parent is struggling, and they see you doing well because you are taking care of yourself, engaging in your community and constantly learning new things, then it’s more likely that they will be inspired to do the same. It might sometimes feel difficult to incorporate all of these habits into your life, but if you start now then you’ll be better set up for your own independence when you get to your golden years.

There are countless benefits to owning a pet as a senior. Take a look at some of our other articles, or the linked one above from AgingCare, and you’ll see that pets can lower stress, improve immune systems, foster relationships and help you build routine. However, while many people dream of owning a dog, cat, or other adorable companion, there are some downsides to caring for an animal. While there are certainly pros and cons to everything in life, it’s important to figure out if the bad outweighs the good when making an important decision like whether or not to welcome an animal into your home. 

Cost

Of course, one of the biggest considerations to make when thinking about pet ownership is the commitment you are making financially. Pets are expensive. While you might think you’re just going to be paying for some food and a few toys, even that can be pricey, and at the end of the day, there’s a lot more to owning a pet than simply buying it some food. Let’s use the costs associated with a dog, as an example:

• Food

The cost of food can vary widely, as outlined on The Dog Stop. And, while $600 a year might not seem too prohibitive, that’s provided that your dog is able to tolerate, and is interested in, the lowest quality food available. Plus, the size of your dog is also going to determine how much they eat. The reality is that many dog owners end up shelling out for much more expensive varieties in order to keep their dogs healthy and happy. Some dogs even have certain health conditions that require them to eat highly specialized diets, even more costly than the ones outlined in the link above. There’s no guarantee your dog will be able to eat the most cost-effective food, so it’s not something you can rely on. 

• Training

Whether you’re getting a puppy or an adult dog, it’s very likely that they will need to visit a trainer. While this is an important part of owning a dog and will make your life much easier, it can definitely cost you. Depending on the needs of your dog, expect to spend several hundred dollars.

• Toys

Dogs are smart, and, just like humans, they need activities to keep them entertained. While you don’t need to buy your dog everything under the sun, buying toys is not just a one and done situation. It’s natural for dogs to chew their toys apart, which means constant replacement. You can opt for more expensive toys that last longer, or cheaper ones that last for less time, but either way you’ll probably spend the same. 

• Supplies

Dogs need items like food and drink bowls and beds. Depending on where you live they might also require boots for outside, raincoats or cooling vests. You’ll also want to have at least one high quality leash and collar. While these items might last you a bit longer, they are still a lump sum payment that can be difficult for some people to manage. 

• Registration

Most states require you to register your dog and pay a fee for a tag. While this isn’t usually a large cost, it’s still a cost to consider each year. If you don’t register your pet you could face a steep fine. 

• Dog Sitting

Dogs require frequent walks and lots of attention, so if you are going away on a trip, or even if you’re gone for long stretches during the day, you’re going to need to employ the services of a dogsitter, dog walker, or kennel. While the occasional walk might be affordable, long term or specialized care can quickly add up. 

• Vet Fees and Insurance

Nobody wants to think about their animal getting sick, but an unexpected illness or injury is one of the easiest ways for pet owners to go into debt or end up with the unthinkable decision of having to surrender or euthanize their pet. Costs for surgery, medication, exams and other associated costs can easily go into the thousands. And, while pet insurance is always a very good idea, many owners forgo it because of the highly monthly fees that are often a couple of hundred for comprehensive coverage. However, don’t forget that preexisting conditions aren’t covered, and there may be some other exceptions to coverage based on your dog’s age breed. Plus, even if you have good coverage, there’s also a deductible to pay, plus the cost of lost time during your day and getting your pet to and from the vet. 

Of course, not every pet will incur the same costs as a dog, but you might be surprised at just how expensive even the smallest animal can be. And, if you’re thinking about adopting an animal then you should ideally aim to give it the best life possible. It might be tempting to just place a fish in a bowl, but even a goldfish deserves to have a proper water tank with plants, frequently changed and treated water, and places to hide like a pirate ship ornament. If you’re already planning on how inexpensively you can keep a pet, then having one is probably not the right choice for you.

Energy

Not only is a pet expensive, but they require a whole lot of energy! Dogs need frequent walks, cats need to be entertained with play, and even if your pet isn’t something that requires walks, you’ll still have to make sure you’re cleaning their living area regularly, which can be a workout in itself! 

We know how important exercise is, and the truth is that the exercise demanded by an animal can often be very beneficial for a senior’s health. However, it’s important to consider what the needs of the prospective pet are, and whether or not you’ll be able to meet them. Daily walks might not be something you are physically capable of, and, even if you are, are you interested in three walks a day, because that might be what your pet needs! You should also think about your physical abilities when it comes to the size of your pet. Are you able to lift them if they become injured or confrontational with another animal? Again, this is not to scare you off, but just make you think about some of the realities of pet ownership. If you have hesitation, then fostering an animal might be a great option. It gives you a chance to get to know an animal before committing to it, so you can be sure that you have found a pet that you can adequately care for. You might be surprised at how energetic some animals can be. Even aside from exercise you might find their energy overstimulating and disruptive to your lifestyle. 

Difficult to Find Housing

While lots of people like animals, they don’t always like animals in their space. Unfortunately this means that finding housing that accepts pets can be very difficult for renters, making the housing market that much smaller. If you think it’s likely you might move in the near future, this is something you’ll want to consider when thinking about getting a pet. You don’t want to be forced into a housing situation that’s too expensive simply because you have a pet, and it’s unfair to the animal if you have to give them up because they’re not welcome in your new home. While of course unexpected situations come up, such as illness, that’s unfortunately something that should be considered as you age. Do you have a plan in place if you’re suddenly in a position where you can no longer keep your pet? Seniors go through so many life transitions, and being forced to give up a pet can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. Sometimes the better option is making the choice to avoid pet ownership altogether. 

Saying Goodbye

Many people outlive their pets, as most animals have a shorter lifespan than humans. While the joy of having a pet often outweighs the grief that might accompany their passing, it’s still something to think about. If you are already dealing with fragile mental health and have been through a lot of grief, is a pet something you are emotionally able to take on? 

On the flip side, you want to consider your lifespan and health in relation to the pet. Most pets get extremely attached to their owners, and can experience grief themselves if parted from them. Is there a plan for where your pet will go if you should happen to pass before them? It might sound morbid, but this is all part of getting your affairs in order as you age. Thinking about these difficult scenarios can help you feel at peace knowing that there’s a plan in place for the animal you care for. 

Restricts Your Freedom

While having a pet can be incredibly rewarding, it also requires a lot of adjustments to your lifestyle. You can’t leave pets alone all day, as it can lead to distress for the animal, and sometimes even result in destruction to your living space. This means you have to plan your outings around your pet and when they need company or walks or time outside to pee. It also means you can’t as easily plan a weekend away or go on an extended vacation. You need to make sure you have a suitable pet sitter, which might be expensive or even unavailable. Animals can greatly enhance your quality of life, but if you’re someone who likes being able to do whatever they want whenever they want then a pet might not fit in very well with that lifestyle. 

Animals Can Spread Disease

Even if you’re the most diligent petowner, there’s still a chance that your pet could pick up a virus, parasite, or even bring home a tick! As the CDC says, sometimes animals can even appear perfectly healthy while carrying a disease that is spreadable. Obviously nobody wants to get sick from their pet, but seniors are even more susceptible due to their vulnerable immune systems. 

Allergies

Speaking of immune systems, did you know that you can develop an allergy to your pet even if you haven’t experienced pet allergies before? Again, this might be more likely to happen to someone who is older and has a weakened immune system. If you have not experienced allergies before and are set on getting a pet then the possibility of this happening shouldn’t stop you, but it’s still something to consider when weighing all the pros and cons. No one wants to be sniffling and feeling exhausted day in and day out because of the dander from their pet!

More Cleaning

Have you ever walked into someone’s house and instantly known that they have a cat? This is likely due to someone not doing frequent enough cleanings of their cat’s litter box…ew. But sadly, a lot of people don’t clean up after their pet as often as they should. Pets require clean cages, bedding, litter boxes, scooped doo doo out on a walk….you name it. If you’re already someone who doesn’t enjoy cleaning up after themselves then will you really enjoy cleaning up after a pet? Unclean animal environments can result in unpleasant smells and even serious health hazards, so it’s something you should definitely think about before getting a pet!

It’s Risky

Did you know that over 80,000 people fall over their pets in the United States every year? Yes, you read that number right. Pets can easily get in the way of their owners and create a tripping hazard that could lead to serious injury or even death. And, because the CDC shows us that falls are the leading cause of injury for seniors each year, you can imagine that having a pet might dramatically increase the chances of having a fall. While of course it’s never intentional, it’s a scary reality, especially for seniors who might have limited mobility or vision. 

Could Impact Sleep

One of the often touted benefits of having an animal is that an animal can help you build routine. But what if your animal’s routine is walking up at 4:30 in the morning, or deciding to zoom around your room at midnight? An animal moving around your home or making noise can seriously disrupt sleep, which as we all know can have detrimental effects on your health.

Tense Relationship With Neighbors

If you have a pet that makes a lot of noise or is aggressive, then it might cause tension in your relationship with your neighbors. They might get angry at a barking dog, a squawking bird or a cat that is constantly scratching the floors. Even if you work to train your animal, you don’t know quite how long that will take, and the stress could build up significantly in the meantime. 

There are so many rewarding aspects to having a pet, but it’s always important to be prepared. If you are aware of all of these downsides to having a pet but feel confident that the decision is right for you then you will likely be an amazing pet owner. But if any of these points cause you to pause, then maybe you should aim to spend more time volunteering with animals or offer to walk your friend’s dog. That way you get all the benefits of pet interaction without all the commitment, and that sounds pretty good, right?